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I Dove You!!!!

Friday, October, 10, 2008

 

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I’m just wild about the “Dove Campaign,” which is a campaign promoting beauty from within. Consider this:  if something like Dove was around when you were a young girl to help develop self-limiting beauty stereotypes, would you have listened?  Would you have believed it? Well?

 

Speaking for myself, I would have probably still looked in the mirror and thought I was fat.  And honesty, I don’t know where that criticism of my self worth originated from. Did somebody tell me I was fat when I was young girl?  Perhaps it was an accumulation of things, such as the media, Cindy Crawford, and Kate Moss.  All I know is that whatever happened, I despised my never-thin-enough-10-pound-overweight body.  And I don’t think it would have mattered a damn how much I weighed, because it never been thin enough, hip enough, sensational enough, Mossy enough.  NEVER.

 

Women compare themselves to other women.  I hate when I do that, but I still do it. I am bad. I am a bitch. I don’t even deserve to call myself a feminist. I talk out of both sides of my mouth.

 

I did it this weekend, in fact.  My girlfriend and I were out for lunch and directly in the middle of my bite of chicken smothered with Swiss cheese, Miss Thang walked by with the body of one of those “dancing with stars people,” and we both turned to one another and said at the same time, “Bitch.”  Now, I know that’s not nice, and Miss Thang is probably nice as hell and all that, but her size two jeans caught me on a PMS-fat-bloated-have-a-pity-party-for-myself-day.  So there ya go.  I’m just being honest about the situation.

 

Most men don’t care about this shallow crap. Can you imagine your husband or boyfriend commenting on some other guy’s body as he strolled by, “Now, that’s some nice ass there, hon, do you like it more than mine. Is it tighter than mine? Does that turn you on?  Now tell me the truth.  Does it?”   I don’t know about you, but I’d look at my husband and say, “Honey, do you want to kiss him?”

 

On the one hand, I despise super models, but on the other hand, I want to be one.  One minute I am screaming about how I desperately want to lose weight, and then the next minute I’m screaming, “Well, why aint I good enough just the way I am!”  Of course, I am screaming all of these contradictions inside my own eccentric, webbed, monkey mind.  Sometimes it’s difficult to be two people; I’m exhausted as hell—One person loves herself and the other person NEVER thinks she’s good enough. One person feels confident and self assured, and the other person curls up like a little ball inside crying about her imperfections.

 

And if I feel this way at 40-something, can you imagine how a young girl feels?  This is exactly what the

 

 DoveCampaign” is trying to transform. Dove’s mission is to widen thedefinitionof beauty.  The Campaign for Real Beauty is based on a belief that beauty comes in different shapes, sizes, ages and that real beauty can be genuinely stunning.

 

 Oh, Dove is an organization after my own heart, face, and body! 

 

This is the sort of impact America needs with Hollywood being shoved down our throats, with Hilton being shoved down our throats.   

 

Gag. Puke. Yuck. Get outta my face, you creepy, skinny witchy bitchy. (I like it cuz it rhymed)

 

Here’s your assignment for today:  Look into the mirror and say loudly, I’m beautiful.  I’m stunning.  I’m sexy.  I’m brilliant. I’m ME.  I’m enough. Enough. Enough. And if your husband or kids happen to walk by assuming you’ve gone off your rocker, who gives a damn.  Just look at them and say, “Yeah honey, I’ve got it, I’m hot stuff. Oh, Yeah!”….Because it’s true. Believe it!  If you do this, I shall give you an A+ on your assignment. And a gold star, honey.  Okay?

 

Check this out~~~Dove - Evolution Commercial (higher quality)

 

 

 

 


elizabeth529
elizabeth529
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 07:20
elizabeth cassidy, CC Creative Life and Career Transition Coach How about saying, "I am more than enough" because we are. I love the campaign also because we are women and not stick figures. it's not to say that I don't want to lose the last 15 lbs. because I do and I do get hard on myself. But I am trying to be more accepting because I think it's our negativity and nobody else's. My friends don't see the extra weight - I am great at hiding it with clothes and maybe that is what we need more of - dressing right classes for every body type! Kim - you and I were separated at birth. I am always throwing the word "bitch" around when I see someone who appears to be perfect. But damn- we are perfect. Perfectly fine and divine!
Merci
Merci
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 10:42
having 3 daughters, it's a constant fight to make sure they maintain a healthy self image and self worth. I think, so far, I'm succeeding, but with the oldest pushing 14, it becomes more and more of a challenge every day. on a side note, i can't find your essay on Helium.. can you email me the link? my not-so-personal email is mercic5@yahoo.com Thanks!
krrobi
krrobi
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 11:13
Merci, I am going to use that article for one of my blogs, which I will say was inspired by you..but I shall send you it, also. About Dove...I love what they are trying to do with their messages! I have two boys, and I cannot imagine how difficult it must be having girls who never think they are good enough. I hate it! Because that was how I was in school, too. This is something we need to change in our society, and this is what Dove is trying to accomplish. Have a great weekend! ~Kim
vlmccauley
vlmccauley
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 13:29
I love it. My husband read it over my shoulder and said, " I like this woman. she is right, you should listen to her." So there you have it!! Why are we so hard on ourselves?
ReneeCK
ReneeCK
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 14:36
Speaking of Dancing with the Stars, one of my fave stories from that show was when a supermodel, young, thin, society's idea of beautiful, was a contestant. And she got out there and crashed. Again, I'm not one for public embarassment, but to have God and everyone see this "role model" get out there and have zero cardio ability, fall on her face, and be eliminated either the first or second week was GREAT! It shows that which we have put value on is not always given value for the right reason.

The campaign has a whole Girl Scout badge and I am SO going to make sure my daughter gets it.

ENOUGH!
Renee- writer and WOMAN!
sarahthequeen05
sarahthequeen05
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 15:02
I like the curvy pale girl in the middle! She looks like me (with hair, obviously). Great blog, Kim. I'll think of it when I'm taking inventory in the mirror next time.
Charlene Ross
Charlene Ross
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 17:43
I love that ad campaing too Kim! I love those beautiful women in that ad. I am like you and play the same game in my head. I'm trying to lose that "last 5 pounds" and God knows if it ever happens I still won't be satified! I was at a Staff Development Day today at a yoga class (that was very nice BTW) and saw this beautiful, skinny woman with huge (fake) tits and I thought to myself "Bitch!" I had to remind myself I was in yoga and my thoughts were not very zen-like. Like Merci, I try so hard to raise my daughter to love her body and I try to raise my son to see that women of all sizes are beautiful. I tell them I go to the gym to stay healthy (healthy schmealthy I do it to be thin), I tell them I eat healthfully to take care of my body (again, only partially true...) and I tell them that I am thin and that I love my body (okay, that one is a big fat lie, but...) Tonight I'm going out with my girlfriends and I will take you up on your challenge and when I am getting ready I will look at myself in the mirror and tell myself how much I rawk! Then I'm going out, flirting with waiters, dancing with strangers, and coming home to crazy sex with my husband (because his wife is HOT!)
Trasey G
Trasey G
Posted Fri, 10/10/2008 - 19:48
Raising two daughters who never thought about any of the fashionista decisions til they hit middle school, I am thrilled that dove has executed this type of thought process for the so young impressionable. When I watch the tv commercial of the little girl sitting on her couch and the tv images fast forwarded through her eyes to her mind, it makes me so sad for all our little girls out there who sit day after day in front of a tv and feel the marketing pressures our culture delivers for the American dollar. Course we see how that greed played out this week. Boo hoo wall street- serves you right for making so much money off America's daughters. Course we moms may need our butts whooped for allowing the mall to take over our living rooms.
onetwothreebirds
onetwothreebirds
Posted Sun, 10/12/2008 - 14:30

Dove is on to something. I hope the sentiment spreads to other "beauty" companies.

Thank you for reminding us both of the campaign and of our own worth.

I appreciate and adore your honesty and introspection.

~ Rhi B.
http://rhibowman.wordpress.com

BCBlogger
BCBlogger
Posted Mon, 10/13/2008 - 12:45
I love this blog, Kim! xoxo I dragged my mother and sister (who was 14 or 15 at the time) to a Dove workshop at The Charleston Center for Women. It was AWESOME and really informative. My mother was always whippet thin when I was younger and in the middle of that class, it became clear that one of the reasons I was so hard on my body is that . . . it wasn't my MOTHER'S body. . .the woman who I'd always viewed as stunning, the woman who all of my father's friends had crushes on. . .she was so beautiful and while I share some similarities with her (shape of the eyes and laugh), my body would never, WILL never be able to imitate hers. I could run all the miles she used to run, practice all the yoga she used to practice, but never will I have that thin, lovely grace. Even at an anorexic 98 pounds, I STILL have an ass that makes me look like an upside-down spoon. LOL. xoxo