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Nikki Hardin
Founder and Publisher of Skirt!. A native of Kentucky, I left home at 17 to elope with my high-school boyfriend. Twelve years later, divorced with three children and unskilled at almost everything, I started college at the age of 29. Earned a B.A. in literature from American University in 1976 and attended graduate school at the University of Virginia on a Governor’s Fellowship. I never completed my master’s degree, however,...
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The Wonder Woman Issue


I’m not a Wonder Woman. I wish I were, and I waste a lot of time giving myself tests of courage, like, “Introduce yourself to the guy at the bar who looks like the model in the Tommy Bahama commercial” or “Quit your job and move to France.” I always fail these mental feats of derring-do and I always have good reasons (“He’s probably dating the model from the California Closets ad,” or “ I’m a Berlitz dropout.”) And then, when I’m sitting at home watching Top Chef instead of eating escargot in Paris, I feel utterly depressed about myself. I’ve always wanted to be like Lauren Hutton and wrestle alligators and live alone in the desert and have a really great white shirt that I just wash out in my motorcycle helmet and wear to a dinner party one ranch over. I want bravery and grit and Amazon chic to be second nature, but it’s just not in my DNA. I come from a long line of women who endured rather than escaped to the Left Bank, who got up in the morning and did what had to be done to survive or feed their families or put a little money aside for tomorrow. I know they must have had bigger dreams, and maybe they allowed themselves the luxury of wondering “what if” on a summer afternoon between hanging out laundry and starting dinner, when they had just sat down to catch their breath and snap some beans. Just like my new sister in the Women to Women International sponsorship program, who has her own dreams. She can’t read or write, her hut has no electricity and she has to get water from a standing drainpipe in her village, but the Women for Women program will help her make the journey from victim to survivor to active citizen. Hundreds of thousands of women in her country have been raped or tortured, some in front of their families, during a brutal war. Despite this, Congolese women have endured, and in my eyes, my new sister is already a Wonder Woman.
BCBlogger
BCBlogger
Posted Wed, 10/01/2008 - 07:29
And funny, beacuse I think you *are* Wonder Woman. You might not be wrestling alligators, all muddy and triumphant in a Huttonesque gap-toothed glory, but you eloped at 17, you survived divorce, you started a magazine that was once printed only in Charleston, mostly in black and white; a magazine that is now in multiple markets, blazing with color. We all have dreams. Not everyone takes steps toward them. You have. I'm sure that Skirt! isn't your only dream (as is obvious from your note this month), but it IS a desire realized. There isn't much that is more inspiring than to see someone who has won. And no, you haven't had to suffer the conditions of a war-torn, massively sexist society. . .but you *have* triumphed. At least in my eyes. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. So, don't worry about thinking of yourself as an awesome, ass kicking, maverick of a Wonder Woman. The rest of us can do that for you! xoxo
krrobi
krrobi
Posted Wed, 10/01/2008 - 09:47
Nikki, I believe all of us are "Wonder Woman" in our own unique way. Yeah, it would be grand to live in France, savor escargot, write on some lovely verandah as Hemmingway did! Ohhhh, how lovely...but this is a passing thought. And I think about my friend, Mercy Adhiambo from Kenya, who lives in a hut with nothing but her own thoughts, and I sometimes wonder why I live in America. Why? We are all "Wonder Woman" to some extent. And yes, my friend Mercy is one of the greatest inspirations of my life. Mercy says this to me in every email..."Women Must Live!" Oh, I love this girl. Thanks, Nikki for a great post. I loved it.
sarahthequeen05
sarahthequeen05
Posted Wed, 10/01/2008 - 11:16
At what point does our hard work make us Wonder Woman? Is it different for every person, and, if so, then can't we choose to be Wonder Woman and to make our idea of Wonder Woman whatever we are? I think so. I am also glad that I'm not the only one who lusts of the guy in the Tommy Bahama ads. :)
ReneeCK
ReneeCK
Posted Wed, 10/01/2008 - 11:39
Maybe this is the voice of the remaining part of the teenager in me who was fearless about walking into Arby's (where my friends worked) being loud and wearing an equally loud and obnxious outfit, but I figure if I don't walk over to Tommy Bahama and buy him a drink, who will? Why do California Closet girls get to have all the fun?!

And, no, I'm not being fed grapes by some Adonis in a gold lame thong with the Carribean water lapping at my toes, but I am Wonder Woman! I am Wonder Woman to my kids who just aren't right if mom's not here to do homework with them. I am Wonder Woman to the teachers who I just shared a classroom that models teaching methods for autisic kids with. (Okay, I'll admit, I was scared as hell to hit send, the thin veil of the title of Public Relations Chairperson hiding the fact that I was still in pajamas with unfolded laundry behind me when I did it.)

I've thought about staying on permanent vacation when I find a sunny spot I love. But then it would just be life. Washing my shirt to have it dry by the time the dinner party started would be an obligation.

So, instead, I made a paradise in my own backyard and enjoy it when I take that damn tight corset with the S off and kick back with the other superheroes in my life! You included Miss Nikki who sends me email every morning and sends my heart skipping when I find my new copy of the print issues full of pictures and sayings so spot on that I want to frame them.
Renee- writer and WOMAN!
elizabeth529
elizabeth529
Posted Wed, 10/01/2008 - 14:48
elizabeth cassidy, CC Creative Life and Career Transition Coach Eating snails is so over over rated. Plus all that butter goes directly to your thighs. What you are doing is giving a future to a woman who would have been denied one. She can dream of a better life, one that will hopefully keep her flesh, mind and spirit from being abused. We can't save the world but we can save a little piece of it and just imagine what she will teach her children on day. Let her teach you about courage and maybe one day you will say to yourself that not doing what I want is no longer acceptable. Look out cute guy in the Tommy Bahama commercial- Niki, the Wonder Woman just buzzed you from her plane. Paris, here she comes. They'll keep the snails warm for you.
Charlene Ross
Charlene Ross
Posted Wed, 10/01/2008 - 16:17
Nikki - you started a magazine out of nothing - you ARE the dream, and yes, a wonder woman too. You have achieved so much in your life & should be looking at it proudly. And giving back to help women with less - what a lifesaver! (Literally.) I am so happy every time I read skirt! in print and online - a magazine that always makes me think and often makes me wonder... France will always be there to visit (as often as you like) and the Cabernet and croissants and escargot will be there waiting.
getaclewis
getaclewis
Posted Thu, 10/02/2008 - 04:59
Here is how Wonder Woman works: You write your heart, then I stumble across your heartfelt posting and, somewhere during its midst, think, "Hmm... Women to Women International, I wonder what that is all about. Let's google it, because what she just described - affording a life and friendship to someone from whom it has been withheld - sounds incredibly appealing to me." And so it begins... the superhuman seed of promise is planted and lives, one click and one paragraph and one dollar and one hello and one hope and one courageous thought at a time, are changed. 'Tis the same with skirt! Through its unfolding, you have given birth from thin air to a home to countless women and readers and writers - where MORE dreams and shares and seeds are planted to produce future Wonder Women. Does it get any better than that, in Paris or Rome or in Tommy Bahamas' cabana? You ARE there... and everywhere we are. "Trust Life's unfolding..."